“I don’t identify as anything. I’m a person. I like who I like. I happened to be dating a woman, and people started taking pictures of us walking to our car after dinner. I [was] holding her hand, and I realized that I have two options: I can let go of her hand and, when asked about it, I can say that my private life is my private life. Or I could not let go and own it. Everyone told me: ‘You cannot do this.’ I had played opposite Nicolas Cage [in one movie], and in another I was playing opposite Johnny [Depp]. And everyone said, ‘You’re throwing it all away. You can’t do this to your career.’ And I said, ‘I cannot do this any other way. Watch me.’ ”
“They pointed to no other working romantic lead, no other actress, that was out. I didn’t come out. I was never in. It’s limiting, that LGBTQ thing. It served a function as an umbrella for marginalized people to whom rights were being denied, but it loses its efficacy because of the nuanced nature of humanity. As we become more educated and expand the facts of our nature, we keep adding letters. It was a great shield, but now we’re stuck behind it. It’s so important to resist labels. I don’t care how many letters you add. At some point, it’s going to spell ‘WE ARE HUMAN.’ ”
The actress also never mentioned her famous ex-husband Johnny Depp by name, but did touch on the $7 million from their divorce settlement which she donated to the ACLU and Children’s Hospital Los Angeles.
Speaking on using her platform for good, Amber feels compelled to speak up:
“I don’t have to; I have to. If I didn’t have a platform, I would stand on my toes. I have a semifunctioning brain and a semifunctioning limbic system, and as a human being, it is incumbent on me to make the world a better place in any small, insignificant way I can. I’ve always tried to do the right thing. I used everything I was given. I had to make it better for the next person.”
The 31-year-old explained:
“I have supported the ACLU since I was 16. When I was growing up, my friends had ‘N Sync posters, and I collected feminist propaganda from World War II. Our mothers and grandmothers worked to make an environment that was deceptively comfortable. I took it for granted. By comparison to other places or previous generations, we’re doing great. Yeah, sure, there have been some sexist things here. I was so wrong. I was so fucking wrong.”
Still, Heard made it clear she has no regrets:
“I’m bad with regrets. I want to squeeze the juice from the motherfucking orange. I was given one orange. You have one life, and I just couldn’t, I just can’t imagine not squeezing every ounce of juice I could possibly get from it. Is there anything worse than a life not lived? If I could write one honest sentence, it would be this: I have not wasted a single second.”
Read on for even more HIGHlights from her feature (below):
On her ability to put out fires (literally, too): “You know you’re getting too good at putting out fires when you notice others’ ineptitude. It’s starting to cause me worry. Why am I so good at this? My friends call me Calamity.”
On how she trained for her role as Mera: “I trained with Gunnar Peterson here in L.A. I’d wake up, train, eat my hard-boiled egg and some kale and then go stunt or martial arts training. I spent about five hours of my day training. For my next movie I should be in sweatpants.”
On her frustration with how women are portrayed in Hollywood: “[As a kid,] seeing princesses in my books called beautiful was frustrating. I found the same frustration in Hollywood. I read 5 to 10 scripts a week, and 4 out of 5 have nothing else to say about the female lead. Always the same adjectives: beautiful or sexy or some version of it. I started saying to my agents, ‘Don’t send me scripts where the first adjective in the female description is “beautiful.” And if the second is “enigmatic,” throw it in the trash.’ The word ‘enigmatic’ means ‘Her backstory doesn’t matter.’ I fell for that so many times.”
Check out Amber’s full interview HERE!
[Image via Daniel Jackson/Allure.]